Grasp Interpersonal Skills And Care For Friends.

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P > Fang is a professional woman. The relationship with his colleagues in the company is good, but the annoyance is every day.

Because Fang Fang's empathy is very serious, she always regards others' pain as her own pain.

It's a good thing to think that you are good to others, but it is a favor to show others how nice you are.

When friends are together, friends will be upset or upset. She will try her best to help. If she can not help, she will be depressed and unhappy.

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< p > Fang Fang once warned himself in the mind that others would be difficult and others would solve it.

However, when meeting someone else, Fang Fang was more anxious than others, and it made her feel bad.

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< p > this psychological emotion which is too concerned about others and influenced by others is called "psychological involvement too high" in psychology.

The high degree of psychological involvement refers to the high degree of correlation between psychological and environmental information.

For example, in the < a href= "//www.sjfzxm.com/news/index_c.asp" > interpersonal communication < /a >, some people will care too much about friends' affairs, friends encounter difficulties, he is more worried than their friends, friends do things wrong, he is more guilt and self accusation than friends.

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People with high psychological involvement can easily be influenced by the external environment. They always associate themselves with their surroundings, leading to mood swings, inappropriate behavior control, and psychological problems or interpersonal barriers. P

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< p > the reason why psychological involvement is too high is usually because the parties are not confident.

For example, they especially care about others' arguments and worry about being denied and excluded by others.

In addition, due to the imperfect development of individual psychological independence, personal condition and mental state are easily influenced by environment and others.

Moreover, it is because of the lack of necessary social perception and interpersonal skills, and it will not properly judge the degree of correlation between events and their own behavior and the impact that their actions may have on the other side.

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< p > to solve the problem of excessive psychological involvement, one is to trust others, to trust others to be responsible for their own affairs, to solve their own problems, not to go overboard, to shoulder the responsibility that they should not be responsible for.

The two is to strengthen self-confidence and independence, have self-worth and support for life. Only by eliminating psychological dependence on others can we control our lives and emotions.

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< p > prevention of psychological involvement is too high. Pay attention to 10 problems with friends: < /p >

< p > < strong > 1, friends should also be divided into relatives, < /strong > < /p >.

< p > friends, though they are the most friendly or reliable partners in the social circle, they must be thoughtful, careful and cautious in communicating with friends.

According to the common sense, most friends are interesting and congenial, some are similar in ambitions, others are similar in culture level, others are tall in personality and interlinked in spirit.

From the point of communication, there are close friends, friends, friends, friends, friends, friends, friends and friends.

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< p > no matter what reason you are, after a period of communication, you should have your choice.

For example, some friends are sincere and clean and honest. They can sincerely and deeply associate with others. But some of them are willing to invest in you for a certain purpose. If you can't get enough benefits or when you are down and out of value, they will never leave you.

What is more, it is better to maintain a certain < a href= "//www.sjfzxm.com/news/index_c.asp" > distance < /a >.

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< p > < strong > 2, asking for the best of human feelings, and making friends are naturally inseparable from human interaction. < /strong > /p >

P, however, people must not ask for more.

If you ask someone to help you, if you don't know much about it, once and then, three, you will be insatiable. If a friend is such a person, you will be bored and resentful, so the relationship between friends will be difficult to continue.

Other people do not consider their ability to endure. In order to meet their needs and make friends compulsion, this is also a behavior that makes friends dislike.

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Less than P, Xiao Liu's income is not large, and his monthly salary is very limited except for normal expenses, so his savings are limited.

However, Xiao Zhang wants to buy a house, not letting Xiao Liu lend him thirty thousand yuan. Liu is powerless, not only does not meet the requirements of Xiao Zhang, but also because of Xiao Zhang's compulsion against friendship.

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< p > < strong > 3, listening to friends' complaints < /strong > < /p >

< p > as a friend, you must learn to listen.

When your friend meets setbacks and troubles, he will find an object to vent his feelings. And as a friend, you can sincerely and patiently listen to each other's complaints, which is an emotional outlet for your friends.

When a friend is telling you, you can not only listen patiently, but also insert one or two emotional comforting words from time to time, or try to figure out some ideas for your friends. The feelings of friends will be swamping out of the swamp.

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< p > in this way, the friendship between friends will deepen and friendship will increase day by day.

There was a woman who was extremely depressed because of her marriage, so she called her girlfriend to give up her troubles. However, those days were catching up with her girlfriend's busy work, unable to take the time to read a href= "//www.sjfzxm.com/news/index_c.asp", listening to /a's friend's demolition.

If you could steal your time and listen to your friend's advice and comfort a little, your friend would not go to a dead end.

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< p > strong > 4, when friends are most in need, /strong > /p >

In the face of the social and changeable nature of P, no one can guarantee that he is free from all requests. No one boasts of his lifelong danger. Therefore, people are always eager to get help from others when they are in trouble.

Therefore, as a friend, when others need your help, you must come to the scene in time and sincerely extend your hand to help your friends to tide over the difficulties.

As long as we grasp this communicative principle, the friendship between you and your friends will be deepened day by day.

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< p > < strong > 5, social communication should have "degree" < /strong > < /p >.

< p > China has a very philosophical saying called "extremes of extremes".

In life, any oversized thing will go to its opposite.

The same is true of friends' communication. In the past, there is a lot of rift, so that friendship between friends can become eternal.

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< p > this is because each person has differences in culture, morality, personality, attitude towards life, potential of work, and family situation. The magnitude of this difference is sometimes proportional to the frequency of communication between friends, that is, the more frequent and the more frequent the communication, the greater the pull.

Therefore, the communication between friends, no matter how many times, distances and so on, must be kept separate from each other, so as to achieve the artistic conception of "endless meaning and unfulfilled love", and will be delighted with the arrival of friends, and miss because of the departure of friends.

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< p > < strong > 6, do not idealize Friends > /strong > /p >

< p > there are no two identical leaves in the world.

Although friends are similar to you in temperament, similar in interests and similar in sex, friends are a living person after all. There are always some differences with you. There will always be such deficiencies. There will always be secrets that one does not want to know.

Therefore, do not socialize with your friends and idealize your friends. Do not take all the words and deeds of your friends as reference.

First of all, we must tolerate the shortcomings of our friends, so once you find out your friends' shortcomings, we should embrace the magnanimity of "running horses on the generals, and supporting the boat in the prime minister". We should tolerate the shortcomings of our friends and choose the right time and means to help them overcome their shortcomings in good faith.

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< p > secondly, let friends retain "self".

You have to communicate with your friends. You must not force your friends to be your "copy".

Let friends have their hobbies and personality.

If you are assertive and assertive about your friends' hobbies, like you, friends will leave you.

Thirdly, we must respect our friends' privacy.

Don't let your friends do everything. You report, it seems that friends are not breathing in with you, that is, they are not friends enough to be unfaithful to you.

If you are so bossy, ask your friends with such a "a href=" //www.sjfzxm.com/news/index_c.asp "idealization" /a standard, and your friends will also hate you for it.

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< p > < strong > 7, correctly grasp friendship and love < /strong > /p >

< p > there should be a place for friendship between men and women except for love.

There are gender differences between men and women, but as long as we pay attention to the size, we can establish a healthy, elegant and pure friendship.

This requires the existence of friendship between male and female colleagues, boys and girls, etc.

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< p > this requires men and women to grasp the relationship between friendship and love. First, men do not offend women's dignity and respect their personality. Two, both men and women should recognize the difference between friendship and love. Friendship is only a friendly exchange between men and women, while love has certain responsibilities to the other side, such as family marriage and so on.

Therefore, there is an insurmountable gap between friendship and love.

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< p > strong > 8, and friends should also say "no" < /strong > < /p >.

Between P and friends, there is often something to ask for. This is a political party.

However, some people often ask for something more than the principle and objective reality.

For example, there is nothing you can do; there are other friends who do things that are against your wishes.

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< p > if you encounter such a situation, as a friend, you should say "no" decisively.

Because, first of all, if you do something against principles, once you are exposed, you and your friends will become prisoners or violators. Secondly, you can not do anything beyond your ability to love. If you do not tell the situation, you will be hurt by it. If you do not refuse it, you will not affect your feelings of intercourse with you. It will also hamper your support from friends.

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< p > commonly used methods; first, be patient to dissuade, to express interest; two, to explain the situation in a solid way, to let your friends understand your difficulties; three, to make a roundabout way of dealing with others, and to help others through other ways.

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< p > < strong > 9, do not simply pursue utilitarian communication < /strong > < /p >

< p > > a href= "//www.sjfzxm.com/news/index_c.asp" > friendship and mutual benefit < /a > is human nature.

However, we must not associate with friends and simply engage in work and communication because of the interaction between friends.

In addition to helping each other, there are other functions such as ideological exchange, mutual complementarity, emotional comfort, and pleasure. If a friend pursues a utilitarian flash, then such a friend will not last long.

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< p > < strong > 10, leaving friends with free time and space < /strong > /p >

< p > people communicate with friends for friendship, but friends may have other circles besides you.

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